6 Real Reasons You Still Can’t Get Over Him

No matter how toxic (and pointless) it is to continue pursuing an ex, most women have a time when it’s almost impossible to let go and move on. You put all you can, even if it comes at the expense of your ego and, at times, your sanity. And let’s say you were fired from that job. Yes, unemployment is scary so at first you will feel sad and anxious, but you will also probably feel more relieved. You will realize that is for the best and will be grateful that you are now free to find a job that is more suitable for you, one where you will feel valued and appreciated. You won’t lose sleepless nights staring at that old job, wondering what happened and what else you could do. You will realize, with perfect clarity, that it is not the right place for you. You put everything you have to make it work, you give it your all, even at the expense of your dignity and affection. You fought well, but it wasn’t enough and he broke up with you. You have suffered with him, and now you are more miserable without him. Unfortunately, a relationship can hardly be viewed through the objective lens of a job. you also need to be retrieved. Many people mistakenly think that the reason they are so sad after a breakup is because they really miss their ex. This is true to some extent, but it is far from the big picture. The pain we feel comes from a number of sources, and most have nothing to do with the ex herself.

1. You think you’ll never find anyone as amazing as him

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This is the biggest breakup myth and the reason why most people find it difficult to get over their first love. They cling to the belief that since they have never experienced anything like it before, they will never see each other again. a person will never measure. I hope you can spot the absurdity in this! Will you meet another person exactly like him? No, because no two people are exactly alike and even still, you and him broke up proving that someone who is exactly like him isn’t exactly what you need. You will not find someone with his exact qualities… .you will find someone even better and more compatible with you.

2. You were infatuated

Most people confuse true love with infatuation even though the two concepts cannot be different. Love is about realistically seeing who the other person is, flaws and all, and appreciating the whole picture. It doesn’t dictate or demand things a certain way, it grows and flows effortlessly creating an environment where both people bring out the best in each other. into some supreme, perfect being. The biggest sign of your crush is if you can’t find a single flaw in the other person. Infatuation usually happens because you have a void in your life that he fills. You don’t feel good enough about yourself and this Supreme Being shows interest in you, makes you feel desired and worthy, and you cling to him for that extra feeling. ,” At least temporarily. Since he’s giving you something you desperately need, you become fearful of losing him, and then panic… what if he loses interest? How can I keep him?You let him get away with his bad behavior as he wants to because you are too scared to call him out and risk losing him.When he withdraws you do. anything in your power to get him back in. You’re in a relationship where you’re not being treated the way you want, and you can’t get rid of yourself, so you’re in You continue to idealize him and think that the only way you will feel better is if he comes back. Narcissism always starts from within, it can never be achieved from outside. Until you realize this, you will remain stuck in your lap.

3. You have sold yourself out.

This forced infatuation. In unhealthy relationships, we will often “sell ourselves” in an effort to make it work. Selling yourself means accepting behavior that you would otherwise consider unacceptable, or trying to be someone you’re not. Maybe you don’t speak up anymore, maybe you’re not the energetic, confident person you used to be, maybe you put him and his needs above your own. sell yourself out. When these relationships end, you’ll often feel like a piece of yourself is missing, like you’re not whole. It was a painful, almost sick feeling. You might feel like bringing him back is the only cure, but it’s not. What you need to do is look at yourself and really try to determine why you have accepted such bad treatment in the long run and what steps you can take to avoid a situation like this: like this again.

4. You remember how he made you feel

Most of the time, it’s not the guy you’re missing… but the feelings you’ve experienced when you’re with him. You miss the closeness, the closeness, the feeling of being desired and admired. You miss how he makes you feel more than he really is. There is almost always a period of retreat after an important element in our lives is gone. Whether it’s your decision to have it removed or not, suddenly there’s a void and you can feel off-balance trying to cope without what you used to have to fuel you. It’s like giving up coffee or cigarettes. At first, you think that you will never be able to get through the day without your “fix”. It will certainly be difficult at first, but once you get over the initial discomfort, you’ll be able to function just as well or even better than before! and taken care of. To fill this void, surround yourself with people who truly care about you and love you for who you are. Focus on rebuilding your life in a way that makes you feel fulfilled and content with who you are. You may have relied on him to give you a sense of worth, and now is the time to own it and give it to yourself.

5. You gave up your life

Boyfriends can often quickly go from being a part of your life to being your whole life. You no longer meet friends, do hobbies, follow your passions. You want to spend every free moment with him and can’t tear yourself up. It feels like he’s your everything… because he is! And when “everything” leaves, you have nothing left. You feel empty, like a piece of your puzzle is missing, the fact that you are missing so many pieces and he is not the final magic piece. It begins with rebuilding your life and making it full and balanced. When you let go of the other elements of your life and let your guy fill that void, you’re left with a huge hole when he leaves you. Realize that this hole is not because he is the other half of your soul, but because you have thrown too many important elements of your life.

6. You took it too personally

A lot of times, the pain we feel after a breakup is actually the pain of a severely bruised ego. Rejection is painful, and even if it has nothing to do with you, it can still sting and make you feel like you’re not good enough. Sometimes two people don’t get along, it’s as simple as that. Sometimes both people can see this with perfect clarity, and sometimes only one can. This post originally appeared in New Mode